Harmonize Gracefully

    Don't you love it when somebody readily agrees to do things your way?  Negotiatin...

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Two Step for Conflict Avoiders

When voices rise and conflict escalates, do you step forward and engage?  Or step back and assess? T...

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Intro to Conflict Styles Podcast

Organizational psychologist and podcaster Meisha Rouser has posted an interview, "Exploring Conflict...

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Conflict as Spiritual Path

Conflict style awareness is truly useful in day-to-day management of differences.  It's easy to lear...

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Don't Resolve Conflict, Utilize It

If you like the conflict styles framework and want compatible tools to build the capacity of your or...

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Do this for Less Holiday Conflict

If you've already spent time with relatives this holiday season perhaps you've discovered things are...

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Trump and Conflict Styles

We can Learn a Lot from Trump about Conflict Styles The weekend brought a textbook example of under-...

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Too Ticked to Talk Nice

  You can't do conflict resolution without doing anger management. Anger is an emotion that eve...

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Things fall apart. How to respond?

These are scary times, and it's not just COVID19.  Polarization is rooted now in ways not exper...

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How Does Conflict Style Shape Destiny?

I spent much of the last month writing new text for the score report of Style Matters. That’s the 10...

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Can You Lead in Emergencies?

Can you lead in times of emergency?  Don’t think that's for someone else.  Life exempts none from th...

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Stop Giving Others Insult Power

  Do you know people who get upset and insulted easily?  They may not realize it, but they're setups...

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Pyramid of Conflict Resolution Skills

  The Pyramid of Conflict Resolution Skills What is the connection between interpersonal conflict re...

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Shift Dynamics with One Word

Here’s a strategy to improve dynamics in a difficult conversation:  In an argument or tense discussi...

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How to Lead with Less Anger

Do you use an angry voice to communicate or give instructions when a firm, even voice would do the j...

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Lead without Bullying

We're reading a lot these days about leaders who bully.  In "When the Boss is a Bully", a recen...

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Avoid Conflict Gracefully

  Sometimes when there's a conflict, the best thing to do is say nothing and just drift away.&n...

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How to Manage Your Storm Shift

  Does your behavior in conflict change sharply when you get upset?  Do you turn suddenly aggre...

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Simple Conflict Resolution Two-Step

  An easy way to expand your conflict resolution ability is to begin using the two step discuss...

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Take Charge Gracefully

Sometimes you have to be pushy in conflict.  You have to say No! and really mean it, insist that peo...

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